I walked into school today, not exactly prepared for what to expect, and as I walked down the hall way, I've noticed more and more girls have suddenly dyed their hair black. And at first I thought it was my eyes, but after a while I looked at more and more girls and finally asked one (who had BLOND hair a few days ago) and she said it was for winter.... I understand a lot of people go for browns, but when did black suddenly come into play? I seem to have missed all that.

Speaking of dying hair, I need to do it again but I'm going to wait until Thanksgiving break. I didn't think it would be appropriate for the funeral on Monday and for parent/teacher conferences on Tuesday.

my boss died this afternoon. Won't be going to the gym...

We're having a trial run lock down at the moment so I figured now would be a good chance to say hello since it's been a while. I went line dancing last night, that was a lot of fun. Alissa came, RB, Phil, Tony and B. It was a good time. Something different. It reminded me how much I used to want to be that country person. I wanted to move to the country down south, get a little house on a small piece of land and just be.... But, as all things don't work out - that's not in the cards for now.

We're going to go again in 2 weeks, with another woman from work. I really want to start it from the top of the lesson and learn all 4, I really only kind of learned 2 this past time.

My boss was transfered to a hospice yesterday. We're not being given a timeline or anything like that. How awful. It's sad. And I feel awkward for being sad because there's people that worked with her a lot longer, etc etc. However, she was my department chair. I am the department... She's the only one I really had that understood the department and guided me. . So anyhow. . .

Tonight I'm going to go to a sculpting class - it's at 6.. We'll see how I feel come Friday

So I have this friend (Doesn't everyone?).  She's frustrating for me and here's why. She prides herself on how independent she is. She's practically done with her masters, she's got a job, she's got a house, etc etc. However - she's the furthest from independent that I have ever met.

She lives paycheck to paycheck because she refuses to set up a budget. She's asked me for help setting up a budget numerous times, even once we did and she 'ballparked' her spending versus actually creating a budget with real numbers. Like she had me put $30 for groceries. And like $30 for eating out per paycheck, which that's only $60 worth of food every two weeks. Well considering she goes to fast food at least 4x a week for dinner - immediately $5 worth of food each time.  - that's instantly $20 a week and $40 every pay.  you mean to tell me for breakfast and lunch/dinner the rest of the days of the week, you spend $20, yeah - - sure.

So then she went shopping (like she does regularly) and 'mis' calculated. I lent her some $ so it wouldn't bounce. No biggie, paid me back right away.  I never mind lending someone money when I know they'll pay me back and it was a mistake.  But I've soon learned, it's not a mistake. It's a continued behavior for her. Her parents have spent .... At least $1000 on things for her this month that she just couldn't afford but needed (like legit needs).  Now my parents give me money and covered a lot of needs for a while - but I'm not the one bragging about how independent I am.

And finally - my friend here gets a major cash bonus, like $500.  What does she do with it? NOT A DAMN CLUE because instead of putting it in savings (where it's desperately needed) - it's gone. How do you live like that? I have my mortgage set aside in savings a month ahead of time, I have an emergency savings (it's small, but it's there), I could never imagine being so out of whack like that. I mean don't get me wrong, there are times when I didn't budget for something that came up or over spent on something and money is tight, but by tight I mean I borrow from the over estimated gas budget that I set up, or have to dip into the spare $50 in checking I like to keep there handy.

And Yes, I'm aware of the fact that we have two incomes, we also have 2 carpayments, double the credit card/medical bills, double the school loans and double the house payment. So it's not like that's much of an excuse....

I hate to be critical of people - I really do. But it's hard to be supportive of someone when you know they aren't taking care of their best interests, and when you try and guide them in that direction, they don't seem to think there's an issue.  God forbid something happen to her heater this winter, or her car - how scary is it to know that someone isn't prepared for something like that.

So anyhow - with that I leave you my rant.

I got this in my e-mail from benefitcosmetics.com, I'm anxiously (not so patiently) awaiting my order for delivery today. So in case anyone is interested, it expires today. Season08 is the coupon code.